It’s the time of year many of us are trying to figure out how to get away from jobs, routines, obligations and chores and take a much-needed rest in a new place. It can offer not only fun, but a new perspective.
But traveling can be work at the best of times: figuring out your plan, making arrangements and reservations, making sure you have the needed papers if you’re going to another country. It all adds excitement but also complication to the trip. Add to that someone for whom you are caring who has Alzheimer’s. It might seem like too much. But early stage Alzheimer’s doesn’t preclude travel, though it does add another set of factors to consider. The article with the link below offers tips.
So often, it’s coulda/shoulda with caregivers. No matter how much they do, they seem to feel as though it’s never enough– perhaps because our loving inclination is to try to heal or solve the problems our loved one is having. Even though we know that we can’t do it, there is always that nagging feeling that you might be able to if only you’d try harder, give up more of yourself, your life, found something — anything — that could do it. What we know in our mind is often at war with what we struggle with in our gut. It’s not healthy for either us or our loved one, and is, ultimately, not helpful to the situation. But even if you can’t completely dominate that nagging guilt, you can, with logic, persistence and support of those who have been there done that, assuage it.
2016 Friendly Caregiver Awarded book, OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing) offers suggestions for balancing guilt with reality.
It can be complicated, especially if you’re still digging your way out of the Great Recession. Our book recommends getting paperwork in order before you nee to have it in order to care or a loved one, though that doesn’t always happen in families. There are other avenues and official documents that can help. Learning, understanding and managing the options takes planning, knowledge, and cooperation with both the cared for and often the rest of the family. (We’re assuming the part about making sure the person who’s taking care of the financial resources is trustworthy), and initiating. To learn more, go to: Caregiver.com
Sue and Nancy have been invited (and have accepted with glee!) an invitation to speak this Thursday at Mount St. Mary’s College in Frederick, MD. Their talk, OK, What Matters Most?, is sponsored by the Living Leadership program in the Institute for Leadership, Ethics, Achievement and Development.
“Ultimately, leadership is not about glorious crowning acts. It’s about keeping your team focused on a goal and motivated to do their best to achieve it, especially when the stakes are high and the consequences really matter. It is about laying the groundwork for others’ success, and then standing back and letting them shine.”
While OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters includes easy, healthy recipes for caregivers to make for both themselves (you need to keep yourself healthy) and their loved one, Chef Ryan Callahan has great tips for those cooking for a loved one going through chemo. Check it out at: caregiver.com
From Today’s Caregiver magazine and caregiver.com, who awarded OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters the 2016 Friendly Caregiver Award, comes a guest post detailing all the things we suggest in the same kind of sensible, advice-from-a-friend manner.
We may be earnest about caregiving, but life needs all kinds of dimensions. Especially laughter. It’s healthy, lightens the load, the mood, the day and the job at hand. Laughing at the absurdities, ironies and more can be the difference between connecting with your loved one and being unadulteratedly burdened by the job of caregiving. Gary Barg, Editor in Chief of Today’s Caregiver magazine has something to say about the balm of laughter in a time of caregiving.