Seek Those in The Same Boat

People who are not in a caregiving situation, especially those who have never (or more likely not yet) experienced it, want to be sympathetic, want to help. But while you can accept their sympathy, even their help, there is nothing like talking with, being with, and sharing stories and tips with those who are currently in the same boat. Those people who are actively caregiving. Their situations may be slightly different from yours — their loved one has terminal cancer; yours is dealing with advanced Parkinsons disease, for example, or yours has Alzheimer’s while theirs has vascular dementia — they are in the trenches along with you. Seeking out those in similar current situations lets you know in a way that nothing else does: You are not alone!

The article (link below) details how caregivers can help support each other.971064c6-42b8-41c0-a373-b15010e84930


“Invisible” Caregiving

gary-sitting_webnewGary Barq’s memory of his Hungarian grandfather, who worked as a painting contractor in his own business until 80. When Gary’s grandfather developed Alzheimer’s the family who adored him, figured out a way to take care of him without destroying his dignity or their lives. It’s a touching story and one worth reading.  “Ok, We Go Now” –

You can get copies of OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing) through or through

Resolutions and Daily Life


I’ve never been a believer in  thinking up New Year’s resolutions because for one thing, they’re usually the stuff I’ve been trying to accomplish or delete all year long, and stressing over it during the last few days of every year, when life is stressful enough, just seems counterproductive to me. Having said that, some of my friends make them, and find the annual deadline helpful. Some even achieve them! Today’s Caregiver Magazine (who gave us an award for our book — thanks thanks!) has the same kind of suggestions that we, and virtually every other person who has done/seen or been recruited into caregiving subscribes to. If you’re a January 1-resolution-person, AND are a caregiver (though many of them work just as well for those who are simply trying to improve our own lives and live the best way we can day by day), they’re spot-on.

National Family Caregiver Month Day 30

Sue Collins


 We are grateful to everyone for taking time to read our daily post during the month of November for National Family Caregiver Month. We hope you found the posts inspirational and have learned not to sweat the small stuff and to realize you cannot fix everything. When you begin to feel stress, STOP and take 3 deep breaths to center yourself.

As we approach the Holiday Season we would like to share an old post: Sue’s Favorite Smoothie to give your immune system a boost.

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I have never been a fan of taking multi vitamins for several reasons: cost; the neon colored urine, which seems unnatural; and honestly, I forget to take the darn pills. For me making a smoothie is easy, plus I can control what I put into the smoothie (and my urine does not change colors — unless you add beets, which I don’t, I prefer to eat them!).


Greens: A handful. I use lacinato kale or spinach or a    combination

Banana: ½

Blueberries: 6-10 berries. I use frozen unless in season…

Fresh fruit in season

Flax seed oil: one tablespoon

Cinnamon: one teaspoon

Tumeric powder: one teaspoon

Protein powder: I use 2 Tablespoons of plant-based protein

Almond milk: between ½ to one cup depending on the fresh fruit used and

the desired consistency.

Blend together and enjoy

Greens: I prefer Lucinato Kale because I find it to be less bitter tasting then curly kale. Greens help detoxify the body, give you energy, helps with digestion and strengthens the immune system.

Banana: Rich in Potassium and vitamin B6, helps support heart function.

Blueberry: An antioxidant and some Vitamin C

Flax seed oil: Omega 3 thus it helps lower cholesterol

Cinnamon: Supports heart health, known to lower cholesterol

What Matters Most? Making care of yourself a priority.

Copyright © 2016 by Sue Collins and Nancy Taylor Robson. All rights reserved

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Bonus Day From The Leaders

 As we wrap up the daily posts for The National Family Caregiver Month, it seems fitting to repeat the words of wisdom from the experts who contributed to our blog.

We asked the following caregiving leaders: If you could give a caregiver only ONE piece of advice for their self-care, what would it be?

thGary Barg: CEO of and Today Caregiver’s Magazine:

The most important thing you can do to support the loved one for whom you care is to care for yourself as well.



thDr Bernie Seigel: R
etired surgeon and author of numerous books on the relationship between the patient and the healing process. He is best known for his book Love, Medicine and Miracles.

I am a caregiver for my wife, 50 years of MS. When going through hell ask yourself what am I to learn from this experience. Learn to surrender you can’t fix everything.



aaeaaqaaaaaaaajlaaaajgvjywrhmgzjltgwnzgtnguwos1iymvmltvinzk0yjewogm3zgMarian Grant: Director of Policy and Professional Engagement at The Coalition to Transform Advanced Care (C-TAC).

My advice would be that caring for a loved one is like running a marathon and you have to pace yourself. It will do no one any good if the caregiver sacrifices their health and well being for their loved one as both will suffer. Of course, this is easier said than done, but most caregivers in a longterm caregiving situation figure this out.

The theme here is clear self care for a caregiver is paramount to surviving and maintaining yourself in order to be an effective, healthy and balanced caregiver.

What Matters Most? Attitude, balance, connections, peace and love.

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splash-ttam-2015-1-1Its Black Friday!

If you enjoy rushing through an open store door after standing in line all night (perhaps in the cold) to get ‘the big bargain’ more power to you! Different strokes for different folks makes the world go round. Before you get lost in traffic jams and frustrated crowds, consider this: While you are out doing holiday shopping for loved ones, don’t forget the family member who is a 24/7 caregiver!   Grab a gift and drop it off after shopping to show your appreciation for the good care they are providing a loved one. Do you have a loved one living in a long term care facility?   Pick up some of their favorite food and drop by for a visit. Have a meal delivered to the home of the caregiver and loved one. If you are visiting from out of town offer a respite to the caregiver or have someone provide respite and take the caregiver out to dinner and a movie.

What matters most? Remembering those family members making it possible for you to participate in Black Friday

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Happy Thanksgiving

getfileattachment The 1994 edition of the Webster’s Dictionary defines thanksgiving as follows: 1.the act of giving thanks; grateful acknowledgment of benefits or favors, esp to God. 2. an expression of thanks, esp to God. 3. A public celebration in acknowledgement of divine favor or kindness.

Thanksgiving is a good day to reflect on gratitude, not forced but offered. Today roll it back to the basics, go back to the adage: it’s the little things that matter most.

Consider the five senses.

  1. Nose. Start with being grateful for the breath; so obvious and yet taken for granted. Smells wafting from the kitchen, flowers, perfume and COFFEE!
  2. Eyes that see colors, brightness, sunsets, faces, smiles and reflection in the mirror
  3. Ears that hear sounds, voices, music, laughter and silence
  4. Mouth that tastes, speaks, sings and kisses
  5. Hands hold, touch, pet, lift and applaud

Expanding from the five senses, consider health, focusing on the positive. Thanks for family, friends and extended family. For a new day, a pet to cuddle with,  for a warm bed, for shelter (thinking about those with none), for being a caregiver. Make a list in your journal at the end of the day. When you are having a difficult time, referring back to what you wrote can be beneficial.

What matters most? Being thankful for the small thingsimages-3
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What matters most? Being connected!



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