Reading Helps Stave off Loneliness

When I read that reading helps stave off lonelinessimages-1 in the newsletter for Today’s Caregiver, I was thrilled — partly because I love to read and partly because I’m a writer and publisher. Reading, according to Emily Dickinson, who knew something about spending a lot of time on her own, is like a frigate that ‘takes us worlds away.’  Books (paper, hardcover, electronic in which you can enlarge the print if need be) let us travel even if we can’t get out of the house, or the armchair, or the bed. It takes our minds to different places, lets us vicariously experience other lives, and keeps those ol’ synapses firing in ways that keep what could be a shut-in life an intellectually opened mind.


Sue’s and my book, OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing) is not like a novel, but it does have in it, along with the kind of practical, experience-based advice and tips that non-professional caregivers can use every day (and many desperately need), the stories of other caregivers and caregiving situations. Encouraging, sometimes poignant, sometimes enlightening stories. We all live on stories, whether they are the ones we tell ourselves about our own life, or those we listen to and learn from.  Stories matter in all walks of life.  Read more from through the link below.


Getting Rid of Caregiver Guilt

Doesn’t help anyone, especially the caregiver

We all have the guilt producing shoulda/coulda’s from time to time, but caregivers usually have the coulda/shoulda’s on a nearly daily basis. Yet  as caregivers we often forget that we too have legitimate and important needs.That fact is only really apparent when our own health suffers in the course of caregiving. Even then, sometimes, we still feel guilt over not giving our ALL!  If stress is too great and especially if our own health is suffering, we need to step back, take a more realistic view of what we have been doing and call in the reserves to help — and to make changes, even if they’re difficult. The article ( link below) on caregiver guilt in Today’s Caregiver, which awarded the 2016  Friendly Caregiver Award to our book, OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters,  illustrates the point, and reiterates our suggestions for beating the guilt trip we often reserve for ourselves..

Who Needs A Power of Attorney as Caregiver?

thOur book, OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing, 2014) details the Paperwork and Practicalities a caregiver needs to address when acting on behalf of a loved one.  Considering all the ramifications and specific legal needs of a person who is unable to care for themselves is difficult, but necessary. Making sure you are legally able to act on behalf of the person takes thought, care, and proper paperwork. The article in offers points to consider.

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“Invisible” Caregiving

gary-sitting_webnewGary Barq’s memory of his Hungarian grandfather, who worked as a painting contractor in his own business until 80. When Gary’s grandfather developed Alzheimer’s the family who adored him, figured out a way to take care of him without destroying his dignity or their lives. It’s a touching story and one worth reading.  “Ok, We Go Now” –

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Caregiver Bookshelf

 There are a lot of ways to become a caregiver and as many ways that the experience varies from those of other caregivers. Which is why it can help to a several differently-targeted references at your fingertips.In addition to OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (of course), and Today’s Caregiver magazine have some great options. Does your loved one struggle with chewing and swallowing?  Essential Puree’s recipes may help. For the most recent additions to Today’s Caregiver winners, check out the link below.

Traveling With Alzheimer’s

45367045-group-of-senior-people-traveling-in-europeIt’s the time of year many of us are trying to figure out how to get away from jobs, routines, obligations and chores and take a much-needed rest in a new place. It can offer not only fun, but a new perspective.

But traveling can be work at the best of times: figuring out your plan, making arrangements and reservations, making sure you have the needed papers if you’re going to another country. It all adds excitement but also complication to the trip. Add to that someone for whom you are caring who has Alzheimer’s. It might seem like too much. But early stage Alzheimer’s doesn’t preclude travel, though it does add another set of factors to consider. The article with the link below offers tips.