It’s sometimes very difficult to step back into a family when you’ve purposely separated yourself from them. When aging parents need help caring for themselves, but the relationship with them has been fraught and you or your siblings face making decisions when what you really want to do is hide from the whole thing to protect yourself, you have a few choices. OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing) offers succinct, practical suggestions for approaching this dilemma. The article ( link below) in caregiver.com offers much the same approach — helpful and practical without sidestepping the difficulties. It’s never easy, but remember: you’re not alone.
See the eight practical guidelines offered in the article.
Our book, OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing, 2014) details the Paperwork and Practicalities a caregiver needs to address when acting on behalf of a loved one. Considering all the ramifications and specific legal needs of a person who is unable to care for themselves is difficult, but necessary. Making sure you are legally able to act on behalf of the person takes thought, care, and proper paperwork. The article in Caregiver.com offers points to consider.
Gary Barq’s memory of his Hungarian grandfather, who worked as a painting contractor in his own business until 80. When Gary’s grandfather developed Alzheimer’s the family who adored him, figured out a way to take care of him without destroying his dignity or their lives. It’s a touching story and one worth reading. “Ok, We Go Now” – Caregiver.com
You can get copies of OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing) through caregiver.com or through amazon.com.
OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters just won a gold Mom’s Choice Award, which not only affirms its accessibility to the general reader, but even more important, it’s usefulness! Mom’s Choice Gold Award
There are a lot of ways to become a caregiver and as many ways that the experience varies from those of other caregivers. Which is why it can help to a several differently-targeted references at your fingertips.In addition to OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (of course), Caregiver.com and Today’s Caregiver magazine have some great options. Does your loved one struggle with chewing and swallowing? Essential Puree’s recipes may help. For the most recent additions to Today’s Caregiver winners, check out the link below.
It’s the time of year many of us are trying to figure out how to get away from jobs, routines, obligations and chores and take a much-needed rest in a new place. It can offer not only fun, but a new perspective.
But traveling can be work at the best of times: figuring out your plan, making arrangements and reservations, making sure you have the needed papers if you’re going to another country. It all adds excitement but also complication to the trip. Add to that someone for whom you are caring who has Alzheimer’s. It might seem like too much. But early stage Alzheimer’s doesn’t preclude travel, though it does add another set of factors to consider. The article with the link below offers tips.
So often, it’s coulda/shoulda with caregivers. No matter how much they do, they seem to feel as though it’s never enough– perhaps because our loving inclination is to try to heal or solve the problems our loved one is having. Even though we know that we can’t do it, there is always that nagging feeling that you might be able to if only you’d try harder, give up more of yourself, your life, found something — anything — that could do it. What we know in our mind is often at war with what we struggle with in our gut. It’s not healthy for either us or our loved one, and is, ultimately, not helpful to the situation. But even if you can’t completely dominate that nagging guilt, you can, with logic, persistence and support of those who have been there done that, assuage it.
2016 Friendly Caregiver Awarded book, OK Now What? A Caregiver’s Guide to What Matters (Head to Wind Publishing) offers suggestions for balancing guilt with reality.